A Warning To Those Choosing Money Over Love

Money-Over-Love

I’ve had several conversations with business owners in the last few weeks and there’s a dangerous common theme that keeps coming up.

Both those who have ‘made it’ and run successful businesses as well as those just getting started are gambling with their most precious resource – their time.

It’s about creating a lifestyle that gives you the freedom (and time) to do what you want (by yourself or with loved ones) while making a positive and valuable impact on your clients, customers and community.

They choose to spend their time locked in their business. They tell me how they are doing it for their kids, for their family, to have more money.

Yet, they’re not playing smart, they’re playing with someone else’s rules, not their own which they can create.

If you’re spending a lot more time away from your loved ones because you think that’s the only way to provide for them – think again.

When the unexpected happens what will you tell yourself? Will you still believe your current story? Will it still have made sense to neglect the time you could have had with your family? Will the extra dollars in your bank account justify your choices? Or will you regret those dollars for the time they took away from you spending it with your loved ones?

I’m not suggesting that you don’t work hard. Hard work and a great commitment of time are requirements at certain stages of business.

But I do believe finding the right balance NOW is far better than waiting for SOMEDAY and the PERFECT FUTURE to occur.

Start doing now what you ultimately want to do later.

Have you ever heard someone approaching their final days say “I wish I had made more money in my bank account?” Isn’t it more common to hear “I wish I spent more time with my family?”, “I wish I loved and treasured my spouse or kids more?”, or “I wish I could have done these things with my family or friends.”

Why wish? Why put things off?
Building a successful business isn’t about having a “successful business.” It’s about creating a lifestyle that gives you the freedom (and time) to do what you want (by yourself or with loved ones) while making a positive and valuable impact on your clients, customers and community.

It’s your choice. Your life. You get to choose how you spend it. What you do with it. What impact you want to make. What value you want to create. Who you’ll serve. Who you’ll love.

Here’s what it comes down to and what I believe: If you’re true to yourself and recognize that you’re playing with someone else’s rules…that you’re delaying what you want by creating reasons (i.e. excuses) that give you permission realize that YOU ARE MAKING A CHOICE.

It’s your choice. Your life. You get to choose how you spend it. What you do with it. What impact you want to make. What value you want to create. Who you’ll serve. Who you’ll love.

There are many things we can’t control in life. But these we can. It’s your choice. You make the rules.

You can play with someone else’s cards, or you can play with your own.

If you feel this message resonates for you or will benefit someone you know, please share it.

With love,
Michael Zipursky

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  • Simon

    Great article Michael, thank you! As Deepak Chopra said “When you make a choice, you change the future” …

  • Busi

    The timing of this powerful message could not have been more perfect. Thank you!

  • Bill Quinn

    Thanks Michael, I spent 13 years in a family business thinking that my family would benefit from the income. My daughter told me 2 years ago that she didn’t care about the money, I never had any time for her was what mattered.

    • Thanks for sharing Bill! Yes, we often think we are doing it for others, but really we’re fooling ourselves. Important to have our priorities aligned.

  • Erno Jancso

    Nice article about small and medium size consulting businesses. I founded my company 14 years ago, and I still working 11 hours/weekday and I see as my children has already growned up, and in 3-5 fives they will leave probably the family.

  • Elliot Begoun

    Such wise and important words. It is so easy to fall into the trap of work first. I love what I do, it is my passion and hobby. It will, however, never be in front of the love for my family and the time we get to spent together. Thanks for the great reminder.

    • You’re awesome Elliot! Such a pleasure and honor working with you!

  • Andreas Dittrich

    Michael, I absolutely agree. We work to live instead of live to work. And after all: there is a life before death.

  • Matt

    Thanks for resending it. I had never seen this article before but it is good.

  • Henry Dittmer

    “Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful.” – Unknown

  • Judson Bartels

    Excellent, thank you for this

  • XclusiV Store

    Spent yrs building my business and buying properties. Took my family to almost destroy it with laziness and greed… would choose the money over family except probably my mom.. Honestly the stress made me blind temporarily… family can kill u. Smh